1. Not serious... just words - no action. Need to reverse to ACTION, not just words.2. Do not accept RESPONSIBILITY for his/her life. Still waiting for real life to just "happen," buying lottery tickets instead of taking responsibility for their lives; "waiting for their ship to come in;"waiting for a lucky break; always WAITING for a more convenient time. But... who else will take responsibility for your life, if not you.3. Raised in a negative atmosphere. "Can't" is the attitude of the household. "Oh, YOU can't do that!""Why do you think you are good enough to do that!?" Etc., etc.4. Don't really understand or realize the importance of planning and setting goals.5. Don't know how.6. Fear of criticism... fear of being ridiculed when trying to rise above the norm. Fear of sharing goals with others, which helps to doom success. (What is needed is association with people who understand the importance of goal setting, and who will help them reach their goals.)7. FEAR OF FAILURE... This is the greatest deterrent that keeps the person in their "comfort zone." There, they are already successful, so there is little chance for failure.But, that place: doesn't teach any lessons... does not stretch the individual to find out what they are really capable of accomplishing.The wise individual understands that FAILURE isn'tfailure at all. It is a LESSON; it is an OPPORTUNITY to learn..and correct mistakes quickly and elegantly... and move forward!How to Make New Year's Resolutions That You'll Keep!Well, it's that time of year again! For most folks, theholidays, offer a chance to exchange gifts and words of good cheer with family, friends and colleagues. Many people also take time to look towards their future, thinking about what they'd like to achieve during the coming 365 days and -- perhaps -- creating a New Year's Resolution to help them get there.Now some of us have come to dread this annual exercise in long range planning. Sure, at one time we made our declarations full of hope and desire. We may have promised that "This will be the year I... start my own business... quit smoking... buy a new home... publish my first article".., etc. But no matter what we pledged, it never seemed to happen. So, we've finally learned our lesson and stopped making resolutions altogether.Which is really too bad, because, if you know how to use them, New Year's Resolutions can be extremely valuable. Let's take a look at how you can reap tremendous benefits from this familiar but poorly utilized custom.Traditionally, people treat their New Year's Resolutions as dreams or vague desires that they hope will someday come true. In fact, it is preciselythis lack-luster attitude, which causes most resolutions to fail in the first place! You see, you have a choice. You can choose to view your yearly promise(s) as a wish list that "would be nice if it came true," but that you don't really expect to happen or, you can look at it as a positive opportunity to take action and create what you truly want in life. Just understand that the first technique generally doesn't work; the second does.Okay. Assuming that you're interested in achievingresults, you must first TURN YOUR RESOLUTIONS INTO A GOAL. The moment you begin to think of your promise in this light, you will automatically relate to it differently. After all, a goal is something serious, something that you intend to accomplish, and something that you have to work towards.What follows are 12 specific steps which will help you translate your New Year's Resolution(s) into solid, achievable goals!1. SET GOALS THAT CALL FOR YOU TO "STRETCH" BEYOND WHAT YOU MIGHT NORMALLY BELIEVE YOU CAN ACCOMPLISH. As Napoleon Hill said,"Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve." Determine what you really believe you can accomplish... then consider expanding what you think is possible. For instance, if you earned $50,000 last year and know that you can easily repeat this success, what would be a real stretch for you? Would it be$60,000? $65,000? Can you see yourself earning$100,000? If so, challenge yourself to acquire this extra amount. There are no limitations except those you acknowledge.2. SELECT AN AREA OVER WHICH You YOURSELF CAN EXERCISE CONTROL, RATHER THAN A SITUATION IN WHICH CHANCE HAS A LARGE INFLUENCE. For example, a New Year's Resolution that you're going to win the lottery would not be effective because you don't directly influence the outcome of the games. You do, however, control the quality of your work, the number of times you call on prospective clients, etc. Focus on these areas and improve your performance.3. PUT YOUR GOAL IN WRITING. When you write out your resolution, you'll find that you become much more serious about achieving it. You must also pay special attention to the way in which you write your goals (see steps 4-7).4. ASSUME SUCCESS. Avoid saying, "I want to startmy own business," say "I will start my own business."5. MAKE IT SPECIFIC. For example, "I will start my own catering business."6. MAKE IT MEASURABLE. For instance, "I will start my own catering business, filling out all necessarylegal papers, renting a location, purchasing kitchen equipment, hiring at least one worker and servicing my first client."7. SET A DEADLINE FOR ACCOMPLISHING YOUR GOAL. Tack on a "by when" to the-end of the abovestatement -- that is, "I will start my own catering business... by May 1, xxxx." This adds a sense of urgency and immediately puts you into action.8. LIST THE BENEFITS YOU INTEND TO RECEIVE BY ACHIEVING THIS GOAL. This is crucial. For instance, will you have more influence in the community? Will your family be more secure? Will you have fulfilled a life's dream? (NOTE: If you ever find yourself growing too scared or losing focus on your goal, take another look at what you wrote for this step.)9. SPEAK WITH OTHERS INVOLVED IN SIMILAR ACTIVITIES. An effective way to build your confidence when sailing into uncharted waters is to associate with those who have already taken this or similar risks '" and survived.10. ASK A COLLEAGUE OR FAMILY MEMBER TO SERVE AS A PERSONAL "COACH" to help you keep your resolution. Share your goals and commitments with this person. Report to him or her often and ask your coach to hold you accountable for doing what you say you will do.11. VISUALIZE YOURSELF ACHIEVING THIS GOAL. Create a vivid mental picture of yourself for example, presiding over a tremendously successful catering affair. Imagine your client smiling and thanking you for cooking such an exceptional meal. Allow yourself to experience the positive feelings e.g., pride, happiness, satisfaction - that go along with your accomplishment. The more you can "see" your success in your mind's eye, the more likely you willbe to create this success in reality.12. ACT Now. Act on your thoughts now. Avoid putting off taking action because you feel that you need to be better trained or more prepared..Build a plan, strategy... and the steps necessary, toachieve your desired outcomes.Article Source:http://EzineArticles.com/expert/Brian_Azar/2213117
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