Women Who Hate Other Women

(In this article, I am using the term mother-- however; it can be equally exchanged to refer to the primary female caretaker in your family.)Have you ever wondered to yourself,"why do women hate each other?"Teenage girls ask the question why do girls hate me?Women who hate other women at the deepest level of their subconscious have unresolved conflicts with their mothers, grandmothers, aunts, or female caretakers who abandoned, abused, or neglected them emotionally, psychologically, and/or physically. Little girls raised by emotionally unstable mother figures never learn how to love and/or trust other women. However, please remember that it is challenging and difficult for a mother to raise her daughter to love and respect; women if she has not learned this lesson herself.Society put so much pressure on mothers to be perfect, unlike fathers. There are saying such as,"As precious as a mother's love" or "The child has aface that only a mother could love." People tell"Your Mama" jokes because the expectations for fathers are so low that there is nothing funny or hurtful that anyone could say about fathers that would cause an emotional response. When athletes accomplish an amazing fete or entertainers accept awards, they acknowledge their mothers. Mothers receive all the glory and blame for how their children's lives ultimately turnout.Society put women on an unrealistic pedestal that cause women to strive for an illusion of perfection that is humanly impossible. And when this hefty emotional and social goal is not met, we learn to hate and blame other women - and subconsciously ourselves.It is very common to hear women say, "I don't trust women!" "Females are fake." Women declare that other women are treacherous, two-faced, backstabbers, who sleep with other women's boyfriends and husbands. Women brag about hating other women and not having females as best friends because women are competitive, devious, and jealous-hearted. What women do not realize is that all women are connected to the collective consciousness of feminine energy... andtherefore-deep down inside they have the same negative thoughts about themselves.10 Primary Reasons Women Hate Other Women:1. Mothers in Abusive RelationshipsGirls raised in homes with psychologically unstable mothers who attract abusive relationships with men tend to have a difficult timeestablishing healthy relationships with men and women. The mother is indirectly teaching her daughter that she is worthless and unlovable when the mother allows a man to verbally, emotionally, and/or physically abuse her. The mother is a role model to her daughter and she is indirectly teaching her how to allow men to treat her in a relationship. Additionally, in many homes riddled with domestic violence, the man may also abuse the children. When children do not feel protected, safe, loved, and respected by their caregivers they have difficulty developing healthy relationships with other people throughout their lives.2. Mothers who are PromiscuousWomen raised in homes with mothers perceived as being promiscuous may find it challenging to trust other women due to the double standard regarding male and female sexuality. Women and men alike are more likely to judge critically the women's role in having an affair with a married man than blaming the husband for cheating. People learn to see themselves through the eyes of other people. Little girls see themselves as reflections of their mother, if people view their mother as being a whore, slut, or tramp-the daughter begins to identify with this persona-evenif it's incorrect. In turn, this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. She would rather be the man-stealing woman who is the predator-- than the supposed unattractive, angry, victim-woman at home who couldn't keep her man faithful. Both are negative personas of femininity and womanhood that make it difficult for women to establish loving and supportive relationships witheach other.3. Mothers who Fail to Protect their Daughters from Sexual PredatorsLittle girls who are molested or sexually abused byfamily members, step-fathers, biological fathers, boyfriends, or close family members and neighbors have a tendency to blame their mothers for failing to protect them from the abuser. Even if it's not the mother's fault-and she is not aware that her child is being sexually abused-- many children still feel that their mothers failed to recognize behavior changes that indicated some type of trauma had taken place.Women are expected to see the unseen and know the unknowable. And when they fall to recognize the pain, shame, and fear hidden behind their children's eyes, buried underneath their souls-society's psychologists, therapists, and counselors first question is: "Did you tell your mother?" The question is loaded with accusatory implications of: if your mother doesn't know was she such a "bad mother" that you couldn't tell her? Your relationship with your mother still comes into question as contributing to your emotional health and overall wellbeing.4. Mothers who have Negative for Poor Body ImageMothers, who hate their bodies, have negative or poor body image, or who are obsessed with looking youthful tend to have daughters who learnto feel the exact same way about their bodies. Children learn to love themselves through their parent's eyes. If a mother doesn't like her nose, andher daughter feels that she has the same nose as her mother-the little girl learns from her mother that something is wrong with her nose as well. That she is not beautiful-not good enough--unless she changes her nose.Spiritual growth plays out through the human DNA. For example, if a mother hates her body size and has cosmetic surgery to alter her appearance-her DNA code may still express itself through her daughter. What will she say to her daughter who is trying diet after diet-- but continues to fail to be a size that she was never born to be? The love or hate that we feel about ourselves is boldly displayed through our children.Even if our children are not born from our bodies they still carry the DNA from their mother's souls. The way their mothers look into their eyes, cuddle with them, caress them, kiss them, feed them, take care of them, read to them, tell them how much they love them or not-this is what encodes children's internal behavior for self-love, self-worth, and self-esteem.5. Mothers who are FlirtatiousMothers who are flirtatious with their daughter's boyfriends, father's friends, or who seem to thrive on being the center of male attention sometimes cause young women to believe that they are unworthy, unimportant, and invisible unless their self-worth is validated by a man. The daughters learn to objectify themselves and see their own self-worth, self-esteem, and feminine-value by how much attention is "paid" to her by men.6. Mothers who are Competitive with and Jealous of their DaughtersSome mothers display behaviors that may indicate that they are jealous and envious of their daughter's youth and beauty. Girls who grow up in homes with mothers who are competitive with their daughters by wearing the same clothes, makeup, i.e. fashion in general; who brag about being a smaller size, or try to dress and act like a teenager instead of an adult woman-- raise daughters who feel insecure about their femininityand physical beauty.7. Mothers who are Emotionally Distant and Non-AffectionateMothers who withhold affection, who are emotionally distant or critical tend to raise daughters who struggle with relationships with female authority figures. They will find themselvesbeing people-pleasers; subconsciously seeking the approval of their nothing is ever-good-enough mothers. Women who hate women in this category have the most problematic relationship with other women because they love and hate theirmothers equally. These mothers tend to be perfectionists who demand that their daughters chew with their mouths closed; never spill ketchupon their dress; and always sit with their legs closed. The perfectionist mother gives her daughter everything that she needs financially and physically--the only thing that she is incapable of giving her daughter is unco